This title highlights, with a little humor, that our habits and behaviors are all from our conditioning. In other words, our inheritance, our education, the influence of society. Conditioner means forcing an apprenticeship in a certain direction. Pavlov for example conditioned dogs by making them hear before each meal the sound of a bell or another sound before electrocuting them. Dogs, therefore, began to salivate by hearing the bell before they even felt the food, or started to panic and whine by hearing the sound associated with electrocution even before being.

Although we claim to be superior to animals, we are similarly conditioned. Our stimuli are simply more elaborate, more refined but at the bottom, our entire learning is a set of conditionings.

You probably want some examples: first of all, coffee, you have conditioned yourself to drink coffee every morning so much that when this coffee does not come, you miss it deeply. Your whole body calls and you feel a great dissatisfaction until it arrives. Change coffee by tea, orange juice, hot chocolate, hot water if you prefer.

For smokers, cigarettes. You have to smoke it, your whole body wants it, in the morning when you wake up, at noon after the meal, with your coffee at the break, in the evening when you return from work etc.

We are conditioned to thousands of things: mobile phone, television, meals at a certain time, hugs, frequency of sex, shower, brushing our teeth... We have a lot of packaging related to objects, schedules, tasks. But we also have conditionings related to concepts, attitudes and behaviours.

Four typical family and societal roles to be known

We are usually conditioned to be kind and polite, sometimes considerate. Our parents and teachers have trained us day after day for years: « Be polite, be nice, think before you talk, be good, you don't have to say that, do this, do this... » The whole usually accompanied by big eyes, screams, a big voice, threats, punishments.

Good sons/good daughters
By observing adults we can notice two types of people. Those on whom conditioning has worked and who have become good sons and daughters: they want to obey and be obeyed, they want society to turn well and believe that if everyone puts his own and obeys authority everything will go well. They are willing to comply with as many people as possible and like to respect the rules.

The rebels
The second guy is the rebels. They have experienced something wrong in their family or school environment. Too much authority, an authority that is ill-placed, too violent or too abnormal, has led them to be wary of anyone who wants to force or compel them, so they need to resist by instinct. Sometimes they are children of rebels and, by adopting rebel behaviour, they honour their parents as good sons/good daughters.

The clowns
The third type of family role is the clown. Whether it is because of his brothers and sisters good sons or rebels, who fight constantly, or because of inheritance or specific education, the experience of these children is that they do not like arguments, bad atmospheres and that they choose to entertain others to defuse conflicts, to fill the void of silence or to make people happy. They make you laugh at yourself or others. Sometimes even their role as a clown leads them to unconsciously choose the path of malice or failed child that is constantly criticized by everyone. The clown would like a better, lighter world, without criticism and he would like people to improve but with humor.

The diplomats
The fourth family role is that of the diplomat who is a variant of the clown. Rather adopted by intelligent, rationalizing or sensitive people who are not able to use humor like clowns, but who prefer to use reason to hear well. They entered into this role because of family disputes, to appease everyone and never left. Like clowns, they do not like conflicts, bad atmospheres, they want peace, good understanding and do not understand why people, if they put a bit of their own, could not live serenely together. Their preferred phrase is: « Come on, come on, don't forget that you're brothers anyway, it's not that bad, shake hands and it'll be much better... ».

In general, good sons and rebels fight in society As in the laws around the covid. Good sons tend to despise rebels because they feel they resist everything and wrongly and endanger society. The rebels judge the good sons and think that they are sheep unable to defy authority and think for themselves and that as a result they are dangerous for individual freedom in the medium or long term.

Clowns or diplomats prefer not to take sides, derision or discuss problems. They may tend to avoid voting, deciding, deciding and often care for goats and cabbage.

Now you see how cleavage and disturbing conditioning can be for society as a whole, because it is not just harmless habits, but deep-rooted behaviours that influence the entire human species. In particular, we are stuck in these four family roles that will guide all our reactions and decisions.

But what we regret in general: selfishness, egocentrism, injustice, violence, arbitrariness, abuse of power, sexism, tyranny, lack of long-term vision, waste, pollution, plundering of land resources, idiocy, racism, lies...

All these behaviours are conditioning, either external conditioning or self-conditioning. Usually a mixture of both. And the shift from positive conditioning to another more negative maybe very fast, because of fear, urgency, anger, ambition...

For example, conditioning efficiency can lead to a tyrannical attitude:

The person is educated to think: I must be effective, efficiency is an ideal that everyone should seek to achieve, but by force of thought, of living it, it is annoyed by all those who do not share this ideal, who are ineffective and who do not even seek to improve. They will then seek to impose their way of doing things, because according to her it is the best solution, the most effective, the fastest and the tyranny eventually seems to them a good solution.

Or the competitive conditioning can lead to an attitude of superiority:

Below in italics the beliefs that lead from one to another. In my method I call these beliefs logics, because some beliefs are considered logical, which makes them more powerful...

« I have to be the best, it's good to be the best, it's rewarding, it's desirable, you always have to be the best, everyone should seek to be the best.« 

becomes:

« superiority exists, some people are superior, others inferior, it is desirable that the best dominates others, it is good if some people are superior like this one does not go into the wall, the superior must dominate the lower etc....« 

These two conditionings will promote totalitarian and authoritarian reflex. A parent can thus become accustomed to dominating everyone in the family, like a teacher, boss or head of state.

Packaging becomes habits and behaviours, I repeat. So all your habits and behaviors are inherently questionable. Even those you think they're good at first. It is by questioning every principle, habit and behaviour that you can make progress in your inner development and that society can change better.

Historically, it is clear that changes in individuals become changes in society. If I take only two examples when there are plethora, it would be the place of women and black people in society. We have moved from a sexist and racist society to an egalitarian society within 70 years. It has been a hard fight (and it is sometimes still), which shows how hard beliefs and habits live, but it has been possible. How else? A key factor was the engagement of women and blacks in the Second World War. All over the world, blacks were recruited into military contingents. They fought with the whites for freedom and proved their value on the ground. Links have been forged, fraternity, courage, respect; Prejudice has fallen. And African Americans have become aware of their strength.

Women, on the other hand, have obtained roles that they had not before, they have shown their value in fighting as resistant, or they have had to assume the full survival of the family by working and managing the finances. American women, in particular, have become skilled workers who have been very active in the construction of ammunition, rifles, tanks and aircraft. English women have become decryption and code specialists in the Enigma program. Men have been forced to see these changes and women have gained confidence in their value. So, when after war things went back to normal, they didn't agree to be put back in a box. They were no longer conditioned.

So it seems clear to me that if we now change habits and conditioning, society will change, history proves it to us. The question, however, is how? How can we break these conditionings that bind us, that dominate us? And how do you do it by taking a good path? It's not that simple, you may have already noticed. My answer comes from my research: beliefs are the initial bricks that make up our conditioning, we have for every subject, every object of existence. They form a complex and powerful nasse of negative programs BUT it is quite possible to erase these beliefs in your conscious and unconscious. It's surprisingly easy. Try the experiment.